Showing posts with label impermanence. Show all posts
Showing posts with label impermanence. Show all posts

Friday, March 1, 2013

I CAN ONLY BE ME. (Challenging Lifelong Thought Processes)

How aware are you of the ongoing processes within the mind, from years of repetitive conditioning and false truth?  

Fortunately, I have been exposed to the truth about the mind.  Having that AWARENESS has led me to question these processes, and allow me to break free from long held, limited self beliefs.  It is a working progress, each moment to moment, subject to losing awareness at any given time.  But that's ok, because awareness of the mind was not taught when I was younger.  Therefore, I am reprogramming everything that I once thought was the truth about myself, my family, and my outlook on life.  I always had so many questions about my purpose here.  Questions about why this, why that .... which led to a spiral of confusion, and eventually sucking me into a dark hole that I couldn't seem to crawl out from ...

I am reflecting upon sooo many memories at the moment.  And all I can do is laugh, laugh at the ridiculousness of it all, the pain that ran through my soul when I was younger ... and I have risen above it!  I am not perfectly healed, or whole, but I don't think most people are.  There is an innate power within us that drives us to creation, to express ourselves, the yearning ... to yearn.  I don't have the answers for every question but I have learned to be at peace with that.  I spent years pondering existence, and if my true desire is to protect and help others, in return fulfilling the yearn in me through a synergistic relationship, all the thinking in the world without FORWARD ACTION ... is nothing more than a waste of precious energy.

It took me years to realize this.  My journey has been unfolding in small increments, but sometimes I take a huge leap and cannot believe how fast my progression has become.  Point is, there is no static time frame.

You have to train the mind in order to manifest what you want in life.  Without training the mind, it runs wild, dictating the moves you don't necessarily want to make.  It is the source of amazing creation, but also the source of immense pain and destruction.

For those who are sensitive and feel the pain of others, take that energy and use it as fuel to expand your love, and be strong for those who cannot stand up for themselves.  IT TAKES MUCH STRENGTH TO BE BOLD, BUT IT'S THE ONLY WAY!  It's the only way.


"A strong man cannot help a weaker unless that weaker is willing to be helped, and even then the weak man must become strong himself ... None but himself can alter his condition." -James Allen


"Weakness" cannot thrive in a POWER EVOLVING UNIVERSE.

Weakness, as in limiting self thoughts, conditioned habits, thought processes that hold you hostage from your true potential, and AIMLESSNESS IN LIFE, are some of the ingredients that add up to confusion, a stagnant life ..

The truth is that life is UNSATISFACTORY, IMPERMANENT, AND IMPERSONAL.  Life will always have a twinge of unsatisfactoriness because we are creative beings, and will always yearn for more, to always experience.  It is the energy in us that limbos between an animal and a spiritual being.  Everything in life, even in the mind is impermanent, subject to change each and every moment.  The attachment to the past, even to the joy of the present will fade.  Everything fades and it's not an upsetting truth but a liberating one!  If we let go of all the attachments we had, HOW FREE WOULD WE BE?!  And everything is also impersonal.  Many people allow external stimuli to affect their heart.  The damage that we ALLOW into our soul is unbelievable.  Torn through emotions and much pain ... when the truth is that everyone is the same.  People bounce off each other, a mirror reflection, warped by confusion and separation due to ego, fear, and doubt.  If we got rid of that, and understood that people who hurt, do so from their own source of pain, we could easily allow our heart to soften.  We are all interconnected, even if one feels alone in the world. <--- FALSE TRUTH!

You have to catch these thought processes and call them out on their bullshit!  It took me awhile, but I am so much stronger that I ever was before!

I know where my RIGHT INTENTION lies.  Sometimes I feel as if who I am is not how people "see" me, but there is only so much to explain.  I know where my true intention lies.  It is not out of self gain in a malicious sense.  It feels good to help another.  It feels RIGHT to give a part of me when someone needs encouragement, hope, and strength.  ALL I CAN BE, IS ME ....

Throwback, 1999 ... Ginuwine (ugh .. SEXY!) "Same Ol' G"

"I'm not trying to hurt nobody,
You only live once they told me.
You can't be mad at me,
I can just be 'G.'"
 
"Day after day,
I continue to be,
Me oh me,
That's all I can be.
Oooh day after day,
I continue to be me oh me,
Same ol' 'G.'"

LOL!

Sometimes I feel the need to defend myself, but then I question what really is going on?  Can I look at the situation objectively?  Can I come to an understanding from both ends, and tap into my true intention?  All I can do is think of the other person, understand, and not take it personal.  Mirroring presents a challenge if the person believes it to be a challenge.  Otherwise, it is nothing more but a facade as with everything in existence.

We will always be discovering who we are.  And frankly, things are looking up!

:)

Wednesday, August 22, 2012

Mushpot Writing: Unhealthy Relationships, Breaking the Pattern.

Have you ever been in a vicious cycle of dysfunctional and disillusioned relationships?

No matter how hard we try to sustain a relationship through a mix of selfless and selfish desires ... IT NEVER SEEMS TO WORK.  It doesn't make sense, no matter how hard we try to figure it out, to rationalize every little detail, or even fancy the relationship in our mind.  Dealing with heartbreak and a deep disconnect can be hard to digest.

When a relationship doesn't work out, we feel an emptiness, as if we have lost our wholeness.  We internalize the disconnect and feel inferior to the whole experience.  We feel confused, cheated, angry, and deeply saddened.  A love un-reciprocated, a love stolen, or a love that was never properly nurtured STINGS.  As a creature of consciousness, of social human creation, we are susceptible to a round-a-bout of emotions.

Let's face it, breaking up sucks!!!  Who wants to be rejected, unloved, unwanted, alone?

But are we really being rejected, unloved, or alone?

There are BILLIONS OF PEOPLE IN THIS WORLD.  We are surrounded by a limitless supply of human contact and whether we are receptive to this wonderful connection is OUR CHOICE.

Secondly, LOVE IS SELFLESS.  You give out of love for another.  Love does not morph into jealousy, possession, obsession, or seclusion.  LOVE IS EXPANDING AND GIVING.  And when we love from a selfish motive, a relationship is bound to have conflict.  You can't expect good seeds to grow from evil roots.  A sunny outlook, lovingkindness, compassion, and patience can help plant seeds that will grow into a beautiful relationship.  Sometimes what is needed for LOVE to grow may not be present in the forefront, hidden behind a cloud of fear, doubt, and ego.  But when we try to see past it, to cultivate the love that is inherently YOU, then we can fill our mushpot to the brim.  And only then can we OVERFLOW OUR JOY TO OTHERS!!!!

***FILL YOUR MUSHPOT TO THE BRIM!!!!***

Before you get involved in a relationship, question your state of serenity.  Question your intention.  Follow you inner self that is guiding you to make instinctual decisions.

FIGHT THE PATTERN!!! 

I know you recognize it.  But it takes a STRONG individual to stop it at its track.  To be strong enough to BREAK THE PATTERN, and to walk away with a smile.  :)

It's easy to fall into patterns, habits, but remember that, THEY NEVER SERVED YOU.  THESE PATTERNS HAD THE SAME OUTCOME.  THESE PATTERNS HAVE ALWAYS LED TO SUFFERING. 

Thus choosing to let go gives YOU the POWER TO GROW AND CONTINUING LOVING.

When a relationship dissolves, the love is never lost nor stolen from you.  IT'S ALWAYS BEEN IN YOU.  And there is a limitless supply if you get rid of fear, doubt, ego, and embody love.  As I have stated before, IT'S OK TO FEEL.  Pain is a part of life, but it is also a motivator, a teacher, and maybe even the blessing you need for necessary change.

Don't be afraid of change, as everything in this world has no concrete hold.  Not the beliefs we have created from childhood, from the labels we place upon ourselves, nor the people that come and go in your life.  If we can understand the truth of ***IMPERMANENCE***, a sure solace may be found when the time has come to part ways.

Holding on only causes immense suffering.  So much suffering and pain can be soothed with the practice of letting go.  Love continuously, endlessly, boundlessly, and beyond!!!!!  Think about all the times you have risen up from a difficult situation and you saw the sun shine again.  When life became bright and beautiful after you let go!!!!  IT'S POSSIBLE TO LOVE AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN!!!!!!!

Be receptive, open your heart to the world.  Connections can be made anywhere as long as you make the choice to engage, to take risk, and to follow a path of joy!

So shake off what happened already and BE IN THE PRESENT MOMENT!!!!!  You are ALIVE to continue experiencing the joy of life.  MAKE THIS LIFE THE MOST JOYFUL ONE EVER!!!!  AND NEVER GIVE UP!!!  SCREAM YES TO THE UNIVERSE AND EMBRACE IT!!!!!

<3


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