No matter how hard we try to sustain a relationship through a mix of selfless and selfish desires ... IT NEVER SEEMS TO WORK. It doesn't make sense, no matter how hard we try to figure it out, to rationalize every little detail, or even fancy the relationship in our mind. Dealing with heartbreak and a deep disconnect can be hard to digest.
When a relationship doesn't work out, we feel an emptiness, as if we have lost our wholeness. We internalize the disconnect and feel inferior to the whole experience. We feel confused, cheated, angry, and deeply saddened. A love un-reciprocated, a love stolen, or a love that was never properly nurtured STINGS. As a creature of consciousness, of social human creation, we are susceptible to a round-a-bout of emotions.
Let's face it, breaking up sucks!!! Who wants to be rejected, unloved, unwanted, alone?
But are we really being rejected, unloved, or alone?
There are BILLIONS OF PEOPLE IN THIS WORLD. We are surrounded by a limitless supply of human contact and whether we are receptive to this wonderful connection is OUR CHOICE.
Secondly, LOVE IS SELFLESS. You give out of love for another. Love does not morph into jealousy, possession, obsession, or seclusion. LOVE IS EXPANDING AND GIVING. And when we love from a selfish motive, a relationship is bound to have conflict. You can't expect good seeds to grow from evil roots. A sunny outlook, lovingkindness, compassion, and patience can help plant seeds that will grow into a beautiful relationship. Sometimes what is needed for LOVE to grow may not be present in the forefront, hidden behind a cloud of fear, doubt, and ego. But when we try to see past it, to cultivate the love that is inherently YOU, then we can fill our mushpot to the brim. And only then can we OVERFLOW OUR JOY TO OTHERS!!!!
***FILL YOUR MUSHPOT TO THE BRIM!!!!***
Before you get involved in a relationship, question your state of serenity. Question your intention. Follow you inner self that is guiding you to make instinctual decisions.
FIGHT THE PATTERN!!!
I know you recognize it. But it takes a STRONG individual to stop it at its track. To be strong enough to BREAK THE PATTERN, and to walk away with a smile. :)
It's easy to fall into patterns, habits, but remember that, THEY NEVER SERVED YOU. THESE PATTERNS HAD THE SAME OUTCOME. THESE PATTERNS HAVE ALWAYS LED TO SUFFERING.
Thus choosing to let go gives YOU the POWER TO GROW AND CONTINUING LOVING.
When a relationship dissolves, the love is never lost nor stolen from you. IT'S ALWAYS BEEN IN YOU. And there is a limitless supply if you get rid of fear, doubt, ego, and embody love. As I have stated before, IT'S OK TO FEEL. Pain is a part of life, but it is also a motivator, a teacher, and maybe even the blessing you need for necessary change.
Don't be afraid of change, as everything in this world has no concrete hold. Not the beliefs we have created from childhood, from the labels we place upon ourselves, nor the people that come and go in your life. If we can understand the truth of ***IMPERMANENCE***, a sure solace may be found when the time has come to part ways.
Holding on only causes immense suffering. So much suffering and pain can be soothed with the practice of letting go. Love continuously, endlessly, boundlessly, and beyond!!!!! Think about all the times you have risen up from a difficult situation and you saw the sun shine again. When life became bright and beautiful after you let go!!!! IT'S POSSIBLE TO LOVE AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN!!!!!!!
Be receptive, open your heart to the world. Connections can be made anywhere as long as you make the choice to engage, to take risk, and to follow a path of joy!
So shake off what happened already and BE IN THE PRESENT MOMENT!!!!! You are ALIVE to continue experiencing the joy of life. MAKE THIS LIFE THE MOST JOYFUL ONE EVER!!!! AND NEVER GIVE UP!!! SCREAM YES TO THE UNIVERSE AND EMBRACE IT!!!!!
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