Everyone Has Unfulfilled Needs. Emotional Baggage.

Who doesn't have some type of unfulfilled need, or emotional baggage, to a certain extent.  Everybody experiences this at one point in their life.  It is such a human condition, absolutely normal.

But what if that unfulfilled need has stayed with you throughout your life, hindering you from growing, from experiencing your true potential.  It can be such a hard burden to carry.  We so desperately want to cast it aside, but such deep rooted issues are much stronger than one can even comprehend.

Now I can easily say what I have been repeating throughout many of my blog posts ... to LET GO.  Life doesn't have to be so painful with attachments.  We will suffer until we let go.

But there's something off-putting that I have been experiencing lately with letting go.  A part of me knows that I am putting up a wall, an emotional barrier, instead of practicing the purifying act of letting go.  I am just putting a cover over an issue that needs to be addressed, instead of quickly blocked and avoided.

When something continuously pops up throughout our life, that issue should be addressed SKILLFULLY, meaning giving ourself the proper mindset, time and space, to understand where it stems from, and how to release ourselves from whatever is holding us back in life.

*****While we are still breathing and able to experience the gift of life, every moment is a chance to face the fears that keep us from being joyful and happy.  Every moment is an opportunity to say YES I CAN to all the naysayers who never believed in us, who always told us we can't because of numerous reasons.  To say YES I CAN to all the situations that brought us down.  To say YES I CAN to all those negative self-defeating thoughts.****

This is our chance to redeem ourselves, not for the sake of proving THEM, but to prove to ourselves that we are much stronger than we know.  That in itself is so powerful, to face our fears, is something we MUST do, in order to live contently, at peace with ourselves in this confusing place.

We all have some unmet need.

Parents, children, adults, husbands, wives, the elderly, etc.  We all experience the same void at times ..... because we are always striving to find what can fill it.  Maybe we will never find "it."  Maybe we are suppose to have a bit of emptiness, because that is what keeps us ALIVE, the will to live, to continue experiencing.

Does that even satisfy me, no .. not really.

I think spending some quality time on issues that pop up frequently in our life is needed.  We spend our lives chasing after many things ... but we neglect our inner self that needs constant nurturing.

No one can fill that void but ourselves ...

We can have people who come into our lives and help ... but they can only penetrate so far .... internal work is something that can only develop from within.  The truth of impermanence is that there is a constant flux of change, of your surroundings ..... who will be your foundation but you.

We are responsible for our own happiness.  We may carry the burden of feeling as if we are responsible for our loved one's happiness ... but that is not the truth.  We can only give so much, but that individual must find within themselves the same truth.

Not everyone will come to this understanding ... no one is perfect.  We all suffer the same ... I suppose I feel responsible in trying to relieve this pain .... but how effective is it if I cannot build myself up in order to give from a place of strength, rather than pity.

Pity is a self- defeating emotion.  Instead have compassion.

"Surrender to the fact that life isn't fair.  Everyone is dealt a different hand, unique strengths, and challenges."

***What is there to pity?  People try their best, whether it comes off as ignorance or admirable.  Who am I to pity?  Who is anyone to pity another?  Everyone holds strength, regardless of anyone's perspective.  Even the homeless who roam the streets, sleep on the cold ground, and beg for money .......... they still have a will to live ....... what prevents them from ending their life?  It's that void, that keeps them "hopeful" .... STRENGTH disguised as fear.***

There is no perfect way to go about things .... just live it.  And I think I am coming to terms with this notion of emotional responsibility.  I can only give by strengthening myself ..

Maybe it is compassion ... for myself ... for my family .. for all those who have that void ....

Just imagine you are a beam of light, and extend it to everyone ... even if you feel like you cannot physically give what they need.  Visualize it ... create it ... and release.

:)